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Get Over Anyone for Good: The 30-Day Plan to Stop Loving Someone Who's Gone

A Day-by-Day System to Survive No Contact, Quiet the Obsessive Thoughts, and Get Your Life Back

by Dr. Maya Sutton (Author)

★★★★★ 4.8 518 ratings
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About this book

A brutally practical, 30-day, day-by-day program for anyone who knows it's over but can't stop loving, checking, and hoping. It replaces vague 'time heals' advice with concrete daily actions to survive No Contact, break the obsessive thought loop, grieve on purpose, and rebuild an identity that doesn't revolve around the person who left.

You already know it's over. That's not the problem. The problem is that your brain didn't get the memo, and every night it drags you back to the same person who is never coming back. You've read the quotes. You've heard 'just give it time.' You've maybe even gone No Contact and relapsed by Tuesday. None of it stopped the ache, because none of it gave you a plan.

Get Over Anyone for Good is that plan. In 30 numbered days, Dr. Maya Sutton walks you through exactly what to do each morning, each night, and in every craving in between. You'll learn why your brain treats this person like a drug and how to detox from them on a schedule. You'll get scripts for the moment you want to text, a system that makes No Contact actually stick, and grief rituals that move pain through you instead of trapping you in it. By the end, you won't be faking 'I'm fine.' You'll be genuinely indifferent, fully yourself, and free.

This is not a book about getting them back. It's not about toxic positivity or pretending you didn't love them. It's a structured, secular, science-backed recovery protocol for the specific, humiliating, exhausting pain of still loving someone who is gone. Thirty days. One clear instruction at a time. Your life, returned to you.

I wrote this because 'give it time' nearly destroyed me. Time alone doesn't heal you. What you do with the time does. So I'm going to tell you exactly what to do, one day at a time, until the person who left finally loses their grip on you.

Table of contents

  1. Introduction: You Don't Need More Time, You Need a Plan
  2. Day 1-3: The Detox Begins (Why Your Brain Treats Them Like a Drug)
  3. Day 4-6: No Contact That Actually Sticks
  4. Day 7-9: Killing the Obsessive Thought Loop
  5. Day 10-12: Grieving on Purpose Instead of Forever
  6. Day 13-15: The Memory Edit (Rewriting the Highlight Reel)
  7. Day 16-18: Reclaiming Your Body, Sleep, and Mornings
  8. Day 19-21: Rebuilding an Identity That Isn't About Them
  9. Day 22-24: Handling the Relapse Triggers (Songs, Dates, Mutual Friends)
  10. Day 25-27: From Longing to Indifference
  11. Day 28-30: The New Default (Who You Are Now)
  12. After Day 30: Staying Free and Loving Again When You're Ready
  13. Emergency Toolkit: What to Do at 3am When You Want to Text Them

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Product details

Print length
121 pages
Language
English
Categories
How To Get Over SomeoneNonfictionBooks
Dimensions
6 x 9 inches

About the author

Dr. Maya Sutton

Dr. Maya Sutton is a licensed clinical psychologist and breakup-recovery specialist who has spent fifteen years helping people stop loving someone who left. After her own two-year struggle to get over a man who married someone else six months after dumping her, she stopped trusting 'give it time' and built the structured 30-day protocol she needed and couldn't find. She has since guided thousands of clients through it, and her no-nonsense, science-backed method has become the plan people share with their friends at 3am. She writes the way a good friend talks: warm, blunt, and impossible to argue with.

Customer reviews

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A Amanda R.
★★★★★ Worth Every Penny for Healing and Growth
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I was really struggling to move on and kept hoping he’d come back, feeling like I was losing my mind. This book gave me a clear, practical plan to stop the endless cycle of sadness and obsessive thoughts without wasting time or money on vague advice. Each day’s step helped me stay strong, respect myself, and finally let go with courage—something I never thought possible. Months later, I’m more confident and grounded, and even if he hadn’t returned, I know I’d be better off. For anyone serious about reclaiming their life after heartbreak without splurging on expensive therapy or gimmicks, this guide is a lifesaver. Highly recommended!

M Marcus T.
★★★★★ Finally, a Real Plan That Works!
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After getting burned by vague advice and empty platitudes in the past, I was skeptical about another breakup book. But this 30-day program truly delivers practical, actionable steps that helped me take control when everything felt out of hand. The way it breaks down the process day-by-day made what seemed impossible totally doable. I especially appreciated the focus on truly cutting contact and silencing obsessive thoughts, which no other advice I've seen addresses so clearly. The guidance on reclaiming my identity and managing triggers was a game changer. I wish I had discovered this book earlier—it’s an absolute must-have for anyone ready to stop the madness and start healing for good.

P Priya S.
★★★★☆ Practical and relatable, some polish needed
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This book offers solid, straightforward advice that anyone struggling after a breakup can benefit from. It breaks down the whole process of no contact and getting past obsessive thoughts in a way that feels doable, not overwhelming. I especially appreciated how it spells out that if someone wanted to be in your life, they'd make the effort—no games needed. It really helped me start to respect myself more and stop making excuses for behavior that's just not okay. I do wish the writing was a bit cleaner though; there are moments where the sentences run on or feel a little rough. Still, the message is clear and the step-by-step plan makes it a helpful guide for those trying to heal and move on.

D David K.
★★★★★ A Practical Roadmap for Healing and Moving Forward
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As someone who approaches challenges with a detailed plan, I found this book to be exactly what I needed after my breakup. Too often, advice around heartbreak feels vague or overly sentimental, but this guide breaks down the process into manageable daily steps that actually build on each other. It’s clear the author understands the emotional chaos that comes after a relationship ends, especially when you feel stuck in obsessive thoughts or constant hope for reconciliation. What I appreciated most is how the book dismantles the typical 'just give it time' notion and instead offers a strategic framework for regaining control: from understanding why our brains mimic addiction patterns to implementing no-contact rules that truly work. The section on grieving intentionally rather than endlessly resonated deeply with me, as did the focus on rebuilding a sense of self beyond the lost relationship. This book also challenges the cultural script that keeps many women trapped in cycles of heartbreak by teaching practical tools that empower you to break free. I would highly recommend it not just immediately after a breakup but also as a preventative guide to avoid falling into unhealthy emotional patterns. For anyone ready to stop feeling broken and start rebuilding their life with intention, this plan is a must-have resource.

S Sophia M.
★★★★★ Straightforward and empowering for anyone ready to move on
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Between juggling work and family, I barely had time to breathe, let alone sort through the heartbreak. This book was a lifeline—no fluff or academic jargon, just clear, practical steps that got me standing firm when old patterns tried to pull me back in. It helped me set firm boundaries and reclaim my strength quickly, even when the emotional storm was at its worst. The day-by-day plan made it manageable, and the author’s supportive tone felt like a friend who truly gets it. If you’re exhausted from feeling stuck or being walked over, this is the no-nonsense guide you need.

J James W.
★★★★★ A much-needed wake-up call for healing and growth
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As a first-time entrepreneur juggling a million things, this book was exactly the push I needed to snap out of my emotional rut. The step-by-step, day-by-day approach helped me implement no contact in a way that actually stuck, which was transformative for my mental clarity. Instead of wasting time obsessing or checking my phone, I redirected my energy into volunteering and building my business, which made all the difference. I’m now almost three weeks in and it’s almost funny to think about ever going back to that old relationship mindset. This program helped me finally prioritize myself and my goals, and as a result, I’m feeling confident and even attracting new opportunities—both personally and professionally. If you’re ready to stop spinning your wheels and get your life back, this plan is worth every page.

E Elena V.
★★★★★ Exactly What I Needed at This Stage
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As someone recently retired, I found this book to be a lifeline after a tough breakup that hit me harder than I expected. The straightforward guidance cuts through the usual clichés and offers real, doable steps that gently but firmly nudge you forward. It’s like having a wise, caring friend who truly gets where you’re coming from when everything feels upside down. I appreciated how it balanced tough truths with compassion, making it easier to face the hard parts without feeling isolated. Definitely a must-read for anyone struggling to move on, no matter their age.

R Robert H.
★★★★☆ A Practical, Compassionate Guide for Moving On With Dignity
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As someone juggling the unpredictable workload of freelancing alongside personal upheavals, I found myself caught in the exhausting cycle of longing after a breakup that felt endless. Get Over Anyone for Good offered me a straightforward, day-by-day plan that felt less like vague advice and more like a concrete toolkit. What really resonated was the compassionate tone—this isn’t about quick fixes or mind games, but about honoring yourself and understanding why walking away is necessary when the other person no longer values you. The book’s emphasis on no-contact strategies that truly stick was a game changer. It validated my experience where I kept giving chances to someone who clearly wasn’t prioritizing me, and helped me realize my worth beyond that relationship. I appreciated the reminder that attraction isn’t about chasing or pleading for attention; it’s about maintaining your own identity and passions—the very qualities that initially drew someone in. What sets this guide apart is that it doesn’t just tell you to move on; it walks you through grieving intentionally, breaking obsessive thought loops, and carefully rewriting the memories that kept me stuck. For a busy freelancer like me, this structure was exactly what I needed to regain control without getting overwhelmed. While the program is laser-focused on the breakup and recovery phase (not dating or relationship-building in general), it serves as an excellent companion to other resources if you’re looking to rebuild confidence for future connections. It gave me the tools to step back with dignity and clarity, recognize when neglect was present, and prepare myself mentally and emotionally to welcome healthier relationships when I’m ready. Overall, the book’s practical daily actions combined with its empathetic perspective made it a worthwhile investment during a difficult time. It’s not perfect—some sections could be tightened up—but for anyone exhausted by the endless cycle of hoping and heartache, it’s a solid guide to reclaiming your life and self-respect.

J Jessica L.
★★★★★ Exactly what I needed!
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Running my own business means stress is nonstop, and dealing with heartbreak felt overwhelming until I found this step-by-step plan. The day-by-day guidance made the impossible manageable, especially the strategies to break obsessive thoughts and truly move on. This book felt like a lifeline for my mental health during a tough time—I’m so grateful I picked it up when I did!

D Daniel S.
★★★★☆ A practical guide that really helps - wish I'd found it earlier!
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Balancing my corporate job and side hustle, I found that implementing No Contact was one of the toughest challenges after my breakup. This book’s step-by-step 30-day plan gave me a clear, actionable path to follow, which made the emotional chaos a bit more manageable. On day three now, I’m struggling but starting to realize how much easier this would have been if I’d tackled it sooner. The insights about why we get stuck on obsessive thoughts really resonated with me and helped me understand my own irrational feelings. My biggest hope is to either move on completely or maybe someday reconnect—but the idea of truly letting go terrifies me. This guide has made me aware of how my emotional reactions have kept me trapped and given me the tools to begin breaking free. The only thing I wish it addressed more is what to do if the person comes back after No Contact—how to hold your ground without falling back into old patterns. Still, this book is a must-read for anyone serious about reclaiming their life post-breakup.

L Laura B.
★★★★★ Finally moved on after months of pain
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After college, ending a long-term relationship felt like losing my entire world. I kept hoping and checking back, trapped in this endless loop of heartbreak. This book gave me a clear, practical 30-day plan that helped me stop the obsessive thoughts and truly commit to no contact. It pushed me to reflect honestly on my role in the relationship and taught me how to rebuild my own identity. The daily steps and self-care focus made all the difference. If you’re stuck like I was, this guide is a lifesaver.

C Chris G.
★★★★★ Unexpectedly Practical and Empowering
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I’ll be honest, I approached this book with some skepticism. Having sifted through countless self-help titles and undergone therapy myself, I wasn’t sure another guide on moving on would offer anything new. But this 30-day plan completely changed my perspective. Rather than vague encouragements or airy platitudes, it delivers a straightforward, no-nonsense program that walks you through each day with actionable steps. What really stood out is how the author centers the entire process on healing yourself. There's no wasted energy analyzing your ex or getting stuck in what-ifs. Instead, the focus is on breaking free from obsessive thoughts, grieving intentionally, and reconstructing an identity that isn’t tethered to the past relationship. The day-by-day structure made the overwhelming process feel manageable, almost like having a compassionate coach guiding me through detoxing emotionally and reclaiming my life. One of the most unique aspects was the guidance on crafting personal affirmations that actually resonate and empower, rather than generic, hollow phrases you often find online. This practical approach helped me internalize positive change in a way I hadn’t experienced before. If you're someone who’s ready to stop feeling stuck but tired of wishy-washy advice, this book offers a refreshingly honest, concrete path forward. It’s the real deal for anyone serious about reclaiming themselves after heartbreak. I’ve found it to be worth far more than its cost and recommend it wholeheartedly.

N Nina P.
★★★★☆ Straightforward and sensible guidance
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As someone who carefully budgets not just money but emotional energy, I appreciated the no-nonsense, step-by-step approach laid out here. This book doesn't sugarcoat the pain—it insists you face it head-on and stop clinging to old habits like messaging your ex or hoping for friendship too soon. What really stood out was the clear advice on cutting contact and how that’s crucial to truly moving on, something I hadn’t seen put this plainly before. The practical tips on grieving with intention and rebuilding your sense of self made the investment well worth it. If you’re serious about reclaiming your life without wasting time or emotional resources, this plan delivers solid, actionable steps.

A Anthony D.
★★★★★ Finally, a Real Plan That Works
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After countless heartbreaks and following advice that felt vague or empty, I found this book to be a lifesaver. It breaks down the healing process into manageable daily steps, which helped me stop obsessing and truly move on. The practical exercises, especially those focused on reclaiming my sense of self and working through grief purposefully, gave me clarity and control I'd never had before. This isn't just feel-good fluff—it’s a straightforward guide for anyone stuck in the pain of a breakup. What resonated most was how it helped me understand my patterns and why I kept attracting the same kinds of unhealthy relationships. The affirmations and reflective prompts worked hand in hand with the no-contact strategies to rebuild my confidence and self-love. If you’ve been exhausted by generic advice and are ready for a concrete plan to break free from emotional pain, this book is exactly what you need.

R Rachel C.
★★★★★ Finally, a clear and practical plan to move on
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After stumbling through endless advice that felt vague and unhelpful, this book gave me exactly what I needed—a step-by-step, day-by-day guide to truly stop the cycle of pain. The author’s straightforward approach to managing the obsessive thoughts and grieving intentionally really resonated with me. I appreciated the tough but honest exercises that helped me reclaim my identity and calm my restless mind. If you're ready to put in the work and want real progress, this book is a must-have companion.

K Kevin O.
★★★★★ A practical and structured guide that truly helps you move on
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Since my breakup about six weeks ago, I've been searching for a resource that offers more than just vague platitudes about 'time healing.' This book has been exactly what I needed—a clear, no-nonsense, day-by-day plan that feels actionable and realistic. Each chapter breaks down critical steps, from understanding why your brain fixates on your ex to establishing No Contact rules that actually work and managing the obsessive thoughts that keep dragging me back. The author’s straightforward approach is refreshing and grounding, making it easier to stay committed to the process. One of the standout features for me was the guided self-reflection exercises, which helped me objectively evaluate the relationship instead of idealizing it. This was crucial in shifting my perspective from longing to clarity. I’ve been meticulous in highlighting key points and jotting down insights that resonate, especially around intentional grieving and rebuilding my sense of self beyond the relationship. Even on days when I felt stuck or overwhelmed, flipping back to targeted chapters gave me the boost I needed to keep moving forward. The inclusion of strategies to handle triggers like mutual friends or special dates is something I hadn't seen so clearly laid out before, and it’s made a huge difference. For someone like me who thrives on structure, this book delivers a comprehensive roadmap to recovery that feels personal yet practical. I wholeheartedly recommend it to anyone serious about reclaiming their life after a breakup.

M Maria F.
★★★★★ A Lifeline for Anyone Trying to Move On
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Balancing work and kids leaves me little time for myself, so when my relationship ended, I needed more than just vague advice—I needed a clear, actionable plan. This book’s 30-day system broke down healing into manageable steps that fit into my hectic schedule. Each day, I found concrete tools that helped me stop obsessing, stick to No Contact, and start rebuilding my identity beyond the relationship. It’s honest, practical, and free of fluff, exactly what busy parents like me need to finally get past heartbreak. I’ve recommended it to friends who are stuck in the pain and can see them starting to reclaim their lives, just like I did.

B Brandon J.
★★★★★ A Game-Changer for Moving On
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As someone just starting out in business, I never expected a breakup recovery book to feel so relevant and empowering. This day-by-day plan is incredibly practical and easy to follow, breaking down the overwhelming process into manageable steps. Even halfway through, I'm already feeling a shift in how I handle my thoughts and emotions. Finding a resource that offers clear actions rather than vague advice has been a relief. It’s like having a coach guiding me through the tough days, helping me detach and rebuild my sense of self. I’m genuinely grateful to have this book in my corner during a challenging time.

H Hannah W.
★★★★★ A lifeline when I thought healing was impossible
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As someone who recently retired and found myself unexpectedly grappling with a painful breakup, this book has been a beacon of hope. I spent months overwhelmed by grief, unsure if the ache would ever lessen. This 30-day plan offers clear, practical steps that helped me understand my feelings aren’t just sadness but part of a normal grieving process. Knowing others have faced similar pain and found relief gave me strength. The daily guidance, especially on managing obsessive thoughts and embracing No Contact, provided structure during a very chaotic time. It hasn’t solved everything yet, but my heart feels lighter, and that progress means the world. I’d recommend this book to anyone seeking a real path forward beyond just waiting for time to heal.

T Tyler N.
★★★★★ A lifeline when I thought I’d never move on
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As a full-time freelancer, balancing my emotional well-being with the unpredictability of my work life has always been a challenge—especially after my recent breakup, which hit me harder than I expected. I stumbled upon this book about three days into the agony, and it quickly became my anchor during one of the most painful times I’ve faced. The author doesn’t sugarcoat anything but offers a clear, actionable 30-day plan that helped me break the cycle of obsessive thoughts and finally commit to genuine No Contact. This wasn’t just another vague pep talk; it was a structured guide that gave me real tools to stop hoping for a reunion and start rebuilding my life. What really stood out was how the book led me to understand deeper issues I’d been avoiding—like my tendencies toward low self-esteem and fear of abandonment—that had sabotaged my past relationships. The step-by-step approach encouraged me to confront these patterns head-on, not just mask the pain. It’s tough work, no doubt, but the book’s tough-love style kept me accountable and made me realize that healing is an active process, not a passive waiting game. The chapters on reframing memories and reclaiming my identity beyond the relationship were especially powerful. As someone whose freelance career demands constant focus and self-motivation, regaining control over my thoughts and routines was crucial. This book didn’t just help me survive the breakup—it equipped me to thrive afterward. I can honestly say it has earned a permanent spot on my shelf, a resource I’ll return to whenever I need to remind myself how to love myself first. If you’re tired of cliché advice and ready for a practical, no-nonsense plan to truly move on, this is the book. It’s more than just grief recovery—it’s a blueprint for lasting change.

Editorial praise

“The first breakup book I've read that treats heartbreak like the medical-grade problem it is. Sutton doesn't comfort you to death; she gives you a schedule and refuses to let you drown.”

“Most 'move on' books are 200 pages of permission to feel sad. This is 30 days of permission to actually get better. The Emergency Toolkit alone is worth the price.”

“Aggressively practical and impossible to put down. By Day 9 our test readers had stopped checking their ex's profile. That is not normal. That is the book.”