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Get Over Anyone for Good: The 30-Day Plan to Stop Loving Someone Who's Gone

A Day-by-Day System to Survive No Contact, Quiet the Obsessive Thoughts, and Get Your Life Back

by Dr. Maya Sutton (Author)

★★★★★ 4.8 518 ratings
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About this book

A brutally practical, 30-day, day-by-day program for anyone who knows it's over but can't stop loving, checking, and hoping. It replaces vague 'time heals' advice with concrete daily actions to survive No Contact, break the obsessive thought loop, grieve on purpose, and rebuild an identity that doesn't revolve around the person who left.

You already know it's over. That's not the problem. The problem is that your brain didn't get the memo, and every night it drags you back to the same person who is never coming back. You've read the quotes. You've heard 'just give it time.' You've maybe even gone No Contact and relapsed by Tuesday. None of it stopped the ache, because none of it gave you a plan.

Get Over Anyone for Good is that plan. In 30 numbered days, Dr. Maya Sutton walks you through exactly what to do each morning, each night, and in every craving in between. You'll learn why your brain treats this person like a drug and how to detox from them on a schedule. You'll get scripts for the moment you want to text, a system that makes No Contact actually stick, and grief rituals that move pain through you instead of trapping you in it. By the end, you won't be faking 'I'm fine.' You'll be genuinely indifferent, fully yourself, and free.

This is not a book about getting them back. It's not about toxic positivity or pretending you didn't love them. It's a structured, secular, science-backed recovery protocol for the specific, humiliating, exhausting pain of still loving someone who is gone. Thirty days. One clear instruction at a time. Your life, returned to you.

I wrote this because 'give it time' nearly destroyed me. Time alone doesn't heal you. What you do with the time does. So I'm going to tell you exactly what to do, one day at a time, until the person who left finally loses their grip on you.

Table of contents

  1. Introduction: You Don't Need More Time, You Need a Plan
  2. Day 1-3: The Detox Begins (Why Your Brain Treats Them Like a Drug)
  3. Day 4-6: No Contact That Actually Sticks
  4. Day 7-9: Killing the Obsessive Thought Loop
  5. Day 10-12: Grieving on Purpose Instead of Forever
  6. Day 13-15: The Memory Edit (Rewriting the Highlight Reel)
  7. Day 16-18: Reclaiming Your Body, Sleep, and Mornings
  8. Day 19-21: Rebuilding an Identity That Isn't About Them
  9. Day 22-24: Handling the Relapse Triggers (Songs, Dates, Mutual Friends)
  10. Day 25-27: From Longing to Indifference
  11. Day 28-30: The New Default (Who You Are Now)
  12. After Day 30: Staying Free and Loving Again When You're Ready
  13. Emergency Toolkit: What to Do at 3am When You Want to Text Them

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Product details

Print length
121 pages
Language
English
Categories
How To Get Over SomeoneNonfictionBooks
Dimensions
6 x 9 inches

About the author

Dr. Maya Sutton

Dr. Maya Sutton is a licensed clinical psychologist and breakup-recovery specialist who has spent fifteen years helping people stop loving someone who left. After her own two-year struggle to get over a man who married someone else six months after dumping her, she stopped trusting 'give it time' and built the structured 30-day protocol she needed and couldn't find. She has since guided thousands of clients through it, and her no-nonsense, science-backed method has become the plan people share with their friends at 3am. She writes the way a good friend talks: warm, blunt, and impossible to argue with.

Customer reviews

★★★★★ 4.8 out of 5 518 global ratings
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A Amanda R.
★★★★★ Worth Every Penny for Healing and Strength
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I was trying to save money and hesitant to spend on another breakup book, but this 30-day guide was absolutely worth it. When I felt overwhelmed with the urge to reach out, the daily steps kept me grounded and stopped me from spiraling. It showed me how to respect myself and find strength in my sadness, helping me finally let go. Months later, I didn’t just survive—I grew more confident and composed than ever, which changed how I handle relationships. Whether or not they come back, this plan gave me the tools to rebuild my life and self-worth. For anyone serious about moving on without wasting time or money, this is a smart investment.

M Marcus T.
★★★★★ Finally, A Real Plan That Works!
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After enduring a flood of vague breakup advice that never helped me move forward, this book was a breath of fresh air. It's not just about waiting for time to heal—it offers a clear, day-by-day system that helped me break free from obsessive thoughts and truly regain control of my life. I wish I had discovered this guide before spiraling into endless hope and confusion. What really stood out were the practical strategies for sticking to No Contact and managing those painful triggers that can throw you off track. Following the steps quietly gave me the strength to avoid public oversharing and reclaim my private dignity. This is a must-have resource for anyone feeling trapped in heartbreak—grab it for yourself or a friend who’s struggling. It’s worth every penny to find your way back to yourself.

P Priya S.
★★★★☆ Practical and real, but some polish needed
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This book lays out solid, straightforward advice that really hits home for anyone struggling to move on. I appreciate how it emphasizes respecting yourself and not chasing after someone who’s not fully there — something I wish I’d understood earlier in life. The 30-day plan is clear and helps break down the overwhelming feelings day by day, which was refreshing. That said, I did notice some awkward phrasing and grammar issues that pulled me out of the flow occasionally. It felt like it could have benefited from a tighter edit. Still, I found the insights very valuable for gaining mental clarity after a breakup, especially for those still figuring out what healthy love looks like.

D David K.
★★★★★ An Essential Guide for Anyone Ready to Move On
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As someone who likes to approach emotional challenges with a clear, structured plan, this book was exactly what I needed. If you’ve ever found yourself caught in the exhausting cycle of loving someone who’s no longer in your life, this guide offers a detailed day-by-day system designed to help you regain control. What sets it apart is how it replaces the vague advice of 'just give it time' with actionable steps that feel manageable and purposeful. The early days focus on understanding why your mind treats lost love like an addiction, which really helped me make sense of my obsessive thoughts. Then, with a strong emphasis on maintaining No Contact, the book provides practical tips that actually stick, which is crucial if you’ve tried and failed before. Each phase builds on the last, guiding you through grieving intentionally, editing your memories, and eventually reclaiming your identity outside of the relationship. What I appreciated most was how it doesn’t sugarcoat the process—there’s acknowledgement of relapse triggers and tough moments, but also encouragement on how to face them without falling back into old patterns. For anyone tired of being stuck in heartbreak or confused about how to truly move forward, this book is a must-read. I’ve already recommended it to friends who need a straightforward, day-driven plan to stop hoping and start healing.

S Sophia M.
★★★★★ Practical and empowering—exactly what I needed
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As a busy mom constantly juggling work and family chaos, I appreciated how this book dives right into actionable steps without any fluff. It’s like the author truly gets that when you're hurting, you don’t want a long lecture—you need a clear plan to stand firm and reclaim your life. Following the day-by-day system helped me set boundaries and stop sinking into old patterns, even when emotions ran high. The guidance is gentle but firm, encouraging you to build inner strength and focus on yourself first. If you’re struggling to move on from someone who’s no longer in your life, this book offers realistic hope and tools to finally break free.

J James W.
★★★★★ A Game-Changer for Moving On and Moving Up
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As someone launching my first business, this book was exactly the kick in the pants I needed to stop dwelling and start doing. The day-by-day plan helped me stick to no contact without the usual back-and-forth mental drama. Instead of obsessing, I filled my time with productive tasks and even started volunteering on weekends, which took my focus off heartbreak and onto helping others. The practical steps gave me a structure I could rely on, helping me reclaim my mornings and rebuild my identity beyond the relationship. Now, as I near the end of the 30 days, I can genuinely say I’m looking forward to my future—both personal and professional—without the distraction of old feelings. Highly recommend for anyone ready to reclaim their life and energy.

E Elena V.
★★★★★ Exactly What I Needed After My Retirement Split
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I rarely write reviews, but this book truly hit home for me during a tough patch after a sudden breakup in retirement. The straightforward yet compassionate approach is just what a guy like me needed—no fluff, just solid guidance that feels like it’s coming from a good friend. It’s easy to follow day by day, and I appreciated how it balances tough truths with warmth and encouragement. If you want practical steps to reclaim your life and peace of mind, this is the one to pick up.

R Robert H.
★★★★☆ A grounded, empathetic guide for moving on from heartbreak
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As someone who juggles multiple freelance projects and often struggles to carve out emotional space for myself, I found this book to be a much-needed lifeline during a difficult breakup. The author’s approach of treating the end of a relationship as a clear, actionable process—rather than vague platitudes about 'time healing all wounds'—really resonated with me. The day-by-day plan helped me focus on manageable steps like maintaining no contact and learning to quell the obsessive thoughts that so often cloud your mind when you’re heartbroken. What stood out most was how the book reminded me to value and honor my own identity, especially the parts of myself that I had started to neglect during the relationship. It’s easy to lose sight of your individual interests and needs when you’re so focused on someone else, but this guide encourages reclaiming those parts of yourself as a foundation—not just for healing, but for thriving. I appreciated how it framed the no-contact period not as a game, but as a necessary detox from the emotional rollercoaster. It also made me realize that if someone isn’t putting in the effort to be present and engaged, that’s on them—not a reflection of my worth. This perspective was empowering, especially coming from a freelancer who already feels the pressure to be 'on' all the time for clients and projects. While I do wish the book had a bit more polish in the writing, its compassionate tone and practical advice made it well worth the investment. For anyone who feels stuck after someone has left, this book offers a structured, kind, and insightful way to start rebuilding your life and your sense of self.

J Jessica L.
★★★★★ Exactly the guidance I needed!
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Running a small business keeps me on my toes, so when my heart was breaking, I didn’t have time for vague advice. This book’s clear, day-by-day plan was a total lifesaver—practical and easy to follow. It helped me break free from obsessive thoughts and actually reclaim my mornings and my peace. Truly a mental health game-changer for anyone stuck in that painful loop!

D Daniel S.
★★★★☆ A practical guide that really helps with No Contact
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Balancing a full-time job and a side hustle leaves me little time to heal after a tough breakup, but this book’s step-by-step plan has been a solid anchor for getting through the early days of No Contact. I’m only a few days in, and it’s been incredibly challenging not to check in or hope for a message, especially after such a long relationship. This guide made me realize that had I started this process earlier, I might not be feeling so stuck now. It’s tough admitting it might be late for a clean break, but following the daily plan keeps me moving forward. What I appreciate most is how the book helped me recognize the irrational thoughts and emotional patterns keeping me hooked, which is a huge step toward regaining control. My only wish is that it offered clearer advice on what to do if the person returns after you’ve committed to No Contact, because that moment feels like uncharted territory. Still, this is an essential read for anyone struggling to stop loving someone who’s already gone.

L Laura B.
★★★★★ Finally found a plan that works!
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Right after college, I was stuck in this endless cycle of hoping my ex would come back, even though I knew it was truly over. This book gave me a clear, step-by-step plan that helped me break free from those obsessive thoughts and the constant temptation to reach out. The daily guidance on no contact and self-reflection made me see it wasn’t just about them—it was about owning my own healing and growth. It’s like a wake-up call that pushes you to be kind to yourself and rebuild your life on your own terms. If you’re ready to stop the repetitive heartbreak and move forward for good, this book is honestly a lifesaver.

C Chris G.
★★★★★ A Surprisingly Practical Roadmap to Healing
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As someone who has long been skeptical of self-help books, especially those promising to mend a broken heart, I approached this book with caution. Having tried therapy with various professionals and read numerous guides, I was doubtful that any book could offer something truly effective. However, this 30-day plan completely changed my perspective. This isn’t a feel-good fluff guide filled with vague advice or empty encouragement. Instead, it gets right to the core of why we struggle to move on, breaking down the neuroscience behind heartbreak and treating the experience like the addiction it often is. The day-by-day system gave me clear, actionable steps instead of nebulous suggestions, which was exactly what I needed to stay on track. What impressed me most was how it centers on healing myself rather than obsessing over the person who left. It encouraged me to reclaim my identity, manage triggers, and rebuild my life with intention. The guided way to craft personalized affirmations was a revelation, far from the generic mantras I’ve seen floating around online. This made my healing feel authentic and tailored. If you’re still hung up on “why” or trying to dissect the other person’s actions, this book won’t entertain that. Instead, it challenges you to take ownership of your recovery and genuinely focus inward. It pairs well with additional supportive materials I’ve found and, honestly, has felt more effective than some of the therapy sessions I’ve attended. In short, this plan is a rare gem for anyone ready to stop spinning in the same painful loop and start building a healthier future. If you’re serious about moving forward, it’s worth every minute and penny.

N Nina P.
★★★★☆ Clear, No-Nonsense Guide to Moving On
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Having weathered a decades-long relationship breakdown, I was cautious about spending on yet another self-help book. This plan's strength is its blunt practicality—it calls out the pitfalls of clinging to contact with an ex, and why trying to be friends right away only prolongs pain. It tackles the real struggle of facing hurt head-on instead of running, helping to stop obsessive thoughts and stop hoping for change where there is none. The daily steps on grieving purposefully and rebuilding your identity felt especially grounded and doable. If you're ready to quit spinning in circles and want a straightforward roadmap to reclaiming yourself without extra fluff, this book delivers solid value.

A Anthony D.
★★★★★ Finally, a real plan that works
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After countless self-help books that offered nothing but vague advice, this book was a breath of fresh air. It doesn’t sugarcoat the pain or just tell you to 'give it time.' Instead, it provides clear, daily steps that helped me break free from the endless cycle of obsessive thoughts and the trap of hoping for a reunion that would never come. The practical exercises, especially those focused on understanding why we cling to familiar but unhealthy patterns, really hit home for me. This isn’t about quick fixes; it’s about genuinely reclaiming your life and learning to love yourself again, which is exactly what I needed after being stuck in toxic relationships that mirrored my own childhood struggles. The affirmations and intentional grieving process have transformed how I view myself and what I deserve. If you’re tired of recycled clichés and ready for a real method to move on, this book is an absolute must.

R Rachel C.
★★★★★ A Practical Lifeline When You Feel Stuck
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Finding this book was a turning point for me after a painful breakup I never expected. The day-by-day plan helped me break free from the obsessive thoughts and the constant ache I'd been carrying for months. Unlike other advice I've tried, this guide offers concrete steps that really work if you're willing to do the hard inner work. It helped me put the pieces back together, grieve properly, and slowly rediscover myself. I’m still healing, but the knot in my stomach is finally loosening. Highly recommend for anyone ready to stop hurting and start moving forward.

K Kevin O.
★★★★★ A Strategic Guide for Healing After Heartbreak
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After my recent breakup, I searched for a resource that would provide clear, actionable steps—not just vague platitudes about healing over time. This book has been exactly that. From the very first day, it offers a structured, day-by-day plan that feels grounded and realistic. The author is refreshingly straightforward, cutting through the noise and addressing the emotional rollercoaster with practical tools to help you reclaim your life. What stands out most is the emphasis on understanding why your brain clings to a lost love almost like an addiction. The sections focused on sticking to No Contact gave me a solid framework to actually enforce it, which is something I struggled with before. I also appreciated the guidance on managing obsessive thoughts and the intentional grieving process—both of which felt validating and empowering. One exercise that was particularly eye-opening helped me dissect the memories I was holding onto. Instead of idealizing the past relationship, it encouraged a balanced reflection that helped me see where things truly stood and what I need to focus on to grow independently. This kind of self-reflection has been crucial for me to step out of the cycle of longing. Whenever I’ve felt stuck or overwhelmed, I’ve revisited specific chapters to ground myself and keep moving forward. The practical daily assignments give a feeling of steady progress. Additionally, the mention of a supportive community was encouraging; knowing there’s a place to connect with others on a similar journey adds an extra layer of comfort. For anyone who’s serious about moving beyond a painful breakup and wants a no-nonsense, tactical approach, this book is a must-have. It helped me shift my perspective not only on the relationship I lost but also on who I am now and who I want to become.

M Maria F.
★★★★★ A Lifesaver for Busy Minds!
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Juggling work, kids, and the chaos of life, I barely had time to process my breakup, let alone heal from it. This book gave me a clear, practical 30-day plan to stop obsessing and truly move on without drowning in endless what-ifs. Its step-by-step approach helped me manage those relentless thoughts and rebuild my sense of self, even on the busiest days. What I appreciate most is how no fluff or generic advice slows you down — just straightforward, actionable steps that fit into my hectic schedule. If you’re like me and need a no-nonsense strategy to finally get over someone and reclaim your life, this is the guide you’ve been waiting for.

B Brandon J.
★★★★★ A Game-Changer for Moving On
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As a first-time entrepreneur, my schedule is packed, and emotional baggage was really holding me back. This book offers a clear, step-by-step plan that fits perfectly into my busy life. Even though I'm only halfway through, I can already feel the obsessive thoughts easing and my mindset shifting. What I appreciate most is how practical and straightforward the daily actions are. It’s not just vague advice about waiting for time to heal but a focused program that actually helps me reclaim control. Finding this book has been a huge relief and a real turning point in getting my life—and my focus—back on track.

H Hannah W.
★★★★★ A Lifeline for the Heartbroken
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As someone recently retired, I never expected to be navigating the pain of a breakup at this stage in life. For months, the grief felt suffocating, and the loneliness was overwhelming despite the support of family. This book gave me a concrete plan to work through the intense emotions, helping me understand that my suffering was normal and manageable. The day-by-day guidance made a huge difference, and knowing others have walked this path and found peace brought me comfort. I'm still on this journey, but the ache in my chest has lessened, and that feels like a victory. For anyone dealing with this kind of heartache, especially later in life, this book is a compassionate and practical companion.

T Tyler N.
★★★★★ A Lifeline When Healing Felt Impossible
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As a full-time freelancer juggling deadlines and client calls, the emotional toll from my recent breakup felt like an impossible weight to carry alongside my work. I stumbled upon this book about a week into one of the most gut-wrenching endings I’ve faced, and it completely shifted my perspective. Instead of vague platitudes about “time healing all wounds,” this book offers a clear, day-by-day plan to break free from the exhausting cycle of obsession and heartbreak. The guidance here isn’t sugar-coated or fluffy. It’s practical, often tough love — exactly what I needed to stop spinning my wheels in denial and start reclaiming my life. The author lays out how to truly enforce No Contact, dismantle the mental loops that keep you stuck, and purposefully grieve to move forward. It felt like having a dedicated coach walk me through each hard step with compassion and realism, which was incredibly empowering during a time when I felt utterly lost. What really stood out was how the book pushed me to confront deeper patterns I hadn’t fully acknowledged — issues with self-worth, fear of abandonment, and the ways I’d unintentionally enabled unhealthy dynamics. The work was not easy, but it’s clear this book isn’t a quick fix or a bandaid. It’s a blueprint for transformation if you’re willing to do the internal work. Even as someone who’s still healing, I’m confident this book will be a permanent fixture on my shelf. It’s the resource I’ll return to whenever I need to ground myself and make better choices for my emotional health. If you’re tired of broken promises from yourself and from generic advice, this is the guide that cuts through the noise with actionable steps and genuine insight. Highly recommended for anyone ready to stop surviving and start thriving after love ends.

Editorial praise

“The first breakup book I've read that treats heartbreak like the medical-grade problem it is. Sutton doesn't comfort you to death; she gives you a schedule and refuses to let you drown.”

“Most 'move on' books are 200 pages of permission to feel sad. This is 30 days of permission to actually get better. The Emergency Toolkit alone is worth the price.”

“Aggressively practical and impossible to put down. By Day 9 our test readers had stopped checking their ex's profile. That is not normal. That is the book.”