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Get Over Anyone for Good: The 30-Day Plan to Stop Loving Someone Who's Gone

A Day-by-Day System to Survive No Contact, Quiet the Obsessive Thoughts, and Get Your Life Back

by Dr. Maya Sutton (Author)

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About this book

A brutally practical, 30-day, day-by-day program for anyone who knows it's over but can't stop loving, checking, and hoping. It replaces vague 'time heals' advice with concrete daily actions to survive No Contact, break the obsessive thought loop, grieve on purpose, and rebuild an identity that doesn't revolve around the person who left.

You already know it's over. That's not the problem. The problem is that your brain didn't get the memo, and every night it drags you back to the same person who is never coming back. You've read the quotes. You've heard 'just give it time.' You've maybe even gone No Contact and relapsed by Tuesday. None of it stopped the ache, because none of it gave you a plan.

Get Over Anyone for Good is that plan. In 30 numbered days, Dr. Maya Sutton walks you through exactly what to do each morning, each night, and in every craving in between. You'll learn why your brain treats this person like a drug and how to detox from them on a schedule. You'll get scripts for the moment you want to text, a system that makes No Contact actually stick, and grief rituals that move pain through you instead of trapping you in it. By the end, you won't be faking 'I'm fine.' You'll be genuinely indifferent, fully yourself, and free.

This is not a book about getting them back. It's not about toxic positivity or pretending you didn't love them. It's a structured, secular, science-backed recovery protocol for the specific, humiliating, exhausting pain of still loving someone who is gone. Thirty days. One clear instruction at a time. Your life, returned to you.

I wrote this because 'give it time' nearly destroyed me. Time alone doesn't heal you. What you do with the time does. So I'm going to tell you exactly what to do, one day at a time, until the person who left finally loses their grip on you.

Table of contents

  1. Introduction: You Don't Need More Time, You Need a Plan
  2. Day 1-3: The Detox Begins (Why Your Brain Treats Them Like a Drug)
  3. Day 4-6: No Contact That Actually Sticks
  4. Day 7-9: Killing the Obsessive Thought Loop
  5. Day 10-12: Grieving on Purpose Instead of Forever
  6. Day 13-15: The Memory Edit (Rewriting the Highlight Reel)
  7. Day 16-18: Reclaiming Your Body, Sleep, and Mornings
  8. Day 19-21: Rebuilding an Identity That Isn't About Them
  9. Day 22-24: Handling the Relapse Triggers (Songs, Dates, Mutual Friends)
  10. Day 25-27: From Longing to Indifference
  11. Day 28-30: The New Default (Who You Are Now)
  12. After Day 30: Staying Free and Loving Again When You're Ready
  13. Emergency Toolkit: What to Do at 3am When You Want to Text Them

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Product details

Print length
121 pages
Language
English
Categories
How To Get Over SomeoneNonfictionBooks
Dimensions
6 x 9 inches

About the author

Dr. Maya Sutton

Dr. Maya Sutton is a licensed clinical psychologist and breakup-recovery specialist who has spent fifteen years helping people stop loving someone who left. After her own two-year struggle to get over a man who married someone else six months after dumping her, she stopped trusting 'give it time' and built the structured 30-day protocol she needed and couldn't find. She has since guided thousands of clients through it, and her no-nonsense, science-backed method has become the plan people share with their friends at 3am. She writes the way a good friend talks: warm, blunt, and impossible to argue with.

Customer reviews

★★★★★ 4.8 out of 5 518 global ratings
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A Amanda R.
★★★★★ A Lifesaver for the Busy Heart
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Juggling a full-time job and parenting leaves me little time to heal from a breakup, but this book’s straightforward daily plan fit perfectly into my chaotic schedule. It cut through the endless cycle of hoping and heartache by guiding me to actually do the hard work—no contact, honest self-reflection, and purposeful grieving. The insights about how our own patterns keep us stuck really hit home. This isn’t fluff; it’s a practical, compassionate roadmap that helped me stop obsessing and start rebuilding my life, even with little pockets of time to spare. Highly recommend for anyone who needs clear steps and real hope on the other side.

M Marcus T.
★★★★★ A Practical Game-Changer for Moving On
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As someone just starting out in entrepreneurship, balancing the chaos of a breakup with launching a business felt overwhelming. This book isn’t just sentimental fluff—it provides a straightforward, daily plan that really works. I appreciated how it dives into the neuroscience behind why we get stuck, then offers clear, actionable steps to break free from obsessive thoughts and no-contact struggles in a methodical way. It’s like having a coach guiding you through every tough day. What stood out most is how the program centers on rebuilding yourself, not obsessing over the past relationship. The focus on reclaiming your identity and habits was crucial for me personally, as I needed to stay sharp for my business and future relationships. If you’re tired of vague advice and want a structured, practical path to healing and growth, this book is a must-have. It’s helped me regain control and confidence in both life and work, which is priceless.

P Priya S.
★★★★☆ Clear, Compassionate Guidance for Moving On
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After retiring and facing the end of a decades-long relationship, I found this book incredibly helpful. It doesn’t sugarcoat the pain but offers a straightforward daily plan to stop the cycle of obsessive thoughts and break free emotionally. The advice to truly avoid contact with an ex and not rush into new relationships really resonated with me—wisdom I hadn’t encountered before. This step-by-step approach helped me start reclaiming my independence and rebuild my life with purpose. A solid, practical guide for anyone needing more than just generic 'time heals' advice.

D David K.
★★★★★ Essential for anyone ready to finally move on
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As a full-time freelancer, my schedule is unpredictable and often isolating, which made recovering from my recent breakup especially challenging. This book arrived at a pivotal moment when I was feeling utterly lost and stuck in a loop of hoping for reconciliation. What sets this guide apart is its raw honesty and practical approach—it doesn’t just offer platitudes about 'time healing all wounds' but provides a detailed, day-by-day plan to actively reclaim your life. The author’s transparency about the psychological patterns that keep us tethered to someone who’s no longer in our lives deeply resonated with me. I found the early exercises particularly eye-opening, especially the ones that helped me identify how my past experiences shaped my attachment to unhealthy relationship dynamics. This insight was crucial; it helped me understand why I kept gravitating toward familiar, yet destructive patterns rooted in my upbringing. What I truly appreciate are the tangible tools in the book like the affirmations and the structured activities designed to rewire my thinking and rebuild my self-worth. I’ve integrated these affirmations into my daily routine, and they’ve become a vital part of my healing process. The program also thoughtfully addresses common relapse triggers, which was invaluable for someone like me who frequently works late and often feels vulnerable during quiet moments. I wholeheartedly recommend this book to anyone who finds themselves repeating painful cycles and struggling to love themselves fully before seeking a new relationship. It’s a compassionate yet firm guide that encourages you to stop settling for less and start living the life you deserve. If you’re ready to stop mourning and start thriving, this book is exactly what you need.

S Sophia M.
★★★★★ A Practical Lifeline When You’re Stuck in Heartache
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As a small-business owner constantly juggling priorities, this book was exactly what I needed—a clear, no-nonsense 30-day plan to move past a breakup that felt like it was paralyzing me. The step-by-step approach helped me break free from obsessive thoughts and the endless cycle of checking and hoping that drained my energy. Unlike vague advice about ‘time healing all wounds,’ this book offers actionable daily tasks that helped me grieve deliberately and reclaim my sense of self. It’s been a game-changer, not just personally but professionally, because I finally found the emotional space to focus on my business again. If you’re serious about healing and ready to work through the tough stuff, this guide will get you there.

J James W.
★★★★★ A Practical Guide That Truly Helps You Move On
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Balancing a full-time corporate job and a side hustle leaves me little time for self-help fluff, so I needed something straightforward and effective. This book’s 30-day plan gave me exactly that — clear, no-nonsense daily actions to break the cycle of obsessive thoughts and finally stick to No Contact. It felt like having a step-by-step coach guiding me through the tough days, especially the parts about intentionally grieving and rewriting my memories. What really stood out was the way it helped me reflect honestly on my past relationship and focus on rebuilding my identity outside of it. Whenever I felt stuck or overwhelmed, revisiting a chapter reminded me to keep pushing forward. Plus, the sense of community and support it encourages – even if just mentally knowing others are going through the same – was incredibly grounding. I highly recommend this for anyone juggling life’s demands but desperate to move past a breakup for good.

E Elena V.
★★★★★ Exactly the support I needed after my breakup
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Fresh out of college and dealing with my first real heartbreak, I felt completely lost and stuck in a cycle of obsessing over someone who was no longer in my life. This book laid out a clear, day-by-day plan that helped me stop the endless overthinking and finally take back control of my emotions. The advice feels genuine, practical, and free of any fluff — just what I needed to stop hoping and start healing. I’ve already recommended it to friends who’re struggling with breakups because it’s helped me see there's life beyond pain and confusion.

R Robert H.
★★★★★ Unexpectedly Powerful and Practical
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I started this book quite skeptical because I’ve tried so many self-help guides on moving past heartbreak with little success. However, I was genuinely surprised by how effective and actionable the 30-day plan is. The structure is clear, and the day-by-day approach breaks down the overwhelming process into manageable steps that actually feel doable. What really resonated with me was the focus on understanding why my brain clings to someone like an addiction and the practical strategies for cutting off contact in a way that sticks. The sections on quieting obsessive thoughts and purposeful grieving are particularly insightful. It doesn’t just tell you to wait it out or “give it time,” which felt frustrating before; instead, it hands you a concrete roadmap to reclaim your life. I’m only midway through, but I already feel a shift in how I think and cope. The exercises for rewriting memories and rebuilding my identity beyond the relationship have been eye-opening. This book has given me hope and tools I didn’t realize I needed, and I’m so grateful to have found it when I was feeling stuck. If you’re struggling and unsure where to turn, this guide might just be the practical help you need.

J Jessica L.
★★★★★ A Practical Lifeline for Heartache
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As someone who watches every penny, I was hesitant to invest in yet another self-help book amid all the free advice online. But this 30-day plan truly delivers what it promises—clear, manageable steps that help you survive the raw pain after a breakup. It’s refreshing to see a guide that acknowledges the deep suffering isn’t just sadness but something more intense and persistent. The daily actions are easy to follow and concrete, helping me replace endless obsessive thoughts with purposeful healing. Knowing others have walked this tough path and found a way out gave me hope and relief. If you’re hurting and on a tight budget, this book is a worthwhile, no-nonsense resource to reclaim your peace and start living again.

D Daniel S.
★★★★★ Finally, a no-nonsense guide to moving on!
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After multiple breakups where I was fed empty platitudes about "just giving it time," this book was a revelation. It doesn't sugarcoat the pain or tell you to wait it out; instead, it offers a clear, daily plan to break free from obsessive thoughts and truly move on. The step-by-step approach helped me understand not only how to survive the initial heartbreak but also how to rebuild my identity and self-worth, which other advice never addressed. What I appreciate most is how it challenges you to do the real work—grieving on purpose and rewiring your brain—rather than pretending change happens overnight. This isn’t a quick fix; it’s a practical, tough-love roadmap to lasting healing. I’m already seeing the difference, and I know this book will be my go-to whenever old patterns threaten to pull me back.

L Laura B.
★★★★★ A practical guide that truly respects your feelings
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I wasn’t sure how to move on from someone who never apologized, and this book came into my life like a lifeline. Even though I’m only partway through, I find myself highlighting passages in ink because they resonate so deeply. It offers a compassionate, no-nonsense approach that helps you forgive without dismissing your pain or pretending everything’s okay. There’s no judgment here—just honest, grace-filled advice that feels like a real breakthrough. If you’re even remotely drawn to this, I wholeheartedly recommend giving it a chance.

C Chris G.
★★★★★ A practical roadmap for moving on
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I appreciated how this book offered a structured, day-by-day approach that felt like a genuine plan rather than vague advice. The clear explanations about why our brains cling to someone who’s gone helped me understand my feelings on a deeper level. The author’s practical tips for establishing No Contact were especially useful — they felt realistic and doable, which made sticking with the process easier than I expected. The combination of personal anecdotes and actionable steps helped me confront and process my emotions instead of avoiding them. I liked how the book guided me through grieving intentionally, rather than letting the pain linger indefinitely. It even gave me tools to handle triggers like songs or dates that I hadn’t found elsewhere. Overall, this book is detailed and thoughtful, perfect for someone like me who responds well to a clear plan. It's not just comforting words, but real strategies that supported me in breaking the cycle of obsessive thoughts and starting to rebuild my sense of self. Highly recommend for anyone serious about moving forward.

N Nina P.
★★★★★ Clear, actionable guidance for moving on!
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As a busy mom balancing work and family chaos, I needed straightforward and practical advice to finally move past a painful breakup. This book offers a realistic, step-by-step plan that cuts through the noise and helps you heal with daily, doable actions. It’s refreshing to find a guide that doesn’t just say "time heals" but actually shows you how to regain control of your thoughts and rebuild your life.

A Anthony D.
★★★★★ Clear guidance through tough emotions
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As someone new to navigating the emotional side of breakups while launching my own business, this book provided clear and practical advice that really resonated with me. The step-by-step 30-day plan helped me manage overwhelming thoughts and take concrete actions instead of just hoping time would heal everything. The way it breaks down the process of letting go into manageable daily tasks made all the difference. It felt like having a roadmap during a confusing time, allowing me to focus not only on my healing but also on rebuilding my identity beyond the past relationship. Highly recommended for anyone balancing personal growth with professional challenges.

R Rachel C.
★★★★★ A practical guide to truly moving on
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As someone recently retired and navigating the tricky waters of past relationships, this book was exactly what I needed. It helped me confront the painful parts of letting go with honesty and clarity, without feeling like too much to handle. The step-by-step approach made the process manageable and insightful. I’d recommend it to anyone ready to heal and reclaim their life after a breakup.

K Kevin O.
★★★★☆ A Practical Guide That Truly Starts You on the Path
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As a full-time freelancer juggling deadlines and emotional ups and downs, I found this book to be a surprisingly grounding companion through an otherwise chaotic breakup. The early chapters were especially powerful—they gently guided me through those first difficult days with clear explanations and actionable steps that felt both compassionate and realistic. It was refreshing to encounter a recovery plan that didn’t rely on vague platitudes about 'time healing all wounds' but instead offered a concrete, day-by-day system that I could actually follow alongside my busy schedule. The way the book framed the brain’s addiction to the person we’re trying to get over helped me make sense of the flood of obsessive thoughts, and the No Contact advice was practical and doable. I felt lighter and more hopeful as I progressed through those initial weeks, and it really did feel like I was moving toward a breakthrough. That said, as I moved into the later chapters, the tone shifted somewhat. The emphasis on sitting in grief and the detailed personal reflections occasionally made me feel a bit stuck in the pain itself rather than moving beyond it. While I understand grief is necessary, the book sometimes felt like it was dwelling longer on the sorrow than on how to fully reclaim joy or freedom. As someone who thrives on productivity and forward momentum, that part felt a little discouraging and less actionable. I also wished for more hands-on tools in the final sections—like journal prompts or exercises—to help solidify the progress and guide me through bitterness or relapse triggers. The compassionate, conversational style that made the beginning so engaging seemed to fade just when I needed it most. For instance, the clarity about whether reconciliation is advisable got a bit murky toward the conclusion, leaving me unsure about the book’s stance. Overall, this is a very strong, life-changing resource for anyone looking to get control over obsessive love and start rebuilding their life on their own terms. The beginning and middle sections are excellent and really resonated with me as a busy professional who needs straightforward, effective advice. Though the ending didn’t quite maintain that same grace and momentum, the foundation it lays is solid enough for me to recommend it to others—especially if you’re looking for a plan that feels practical and hopeful right from the start.

M Maria F.
★★★★★ Finally, a real plan that works!
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As a small-business owner, my time is precious, and I needed more than vague advice to move on from a tough breakup. This book cuts through the noise with a brutal honesty I didn’t expect—it doesn’t sugarcoat the heartache but gives practical, day-by-day steps that actually stick. I loved how it met me exactly where I was: stuck in obsessive thoughts yet determined to heal. The blend of clear action plans and understanding made the process manageable, like having a coach guiding me through the messiness of letting go. If you’re done with endless waiting and ready for a concrete way out of the emotional spiral, this is the book for you.

B Brandon J.
★★★★★ A Practical Guide I Keep Returning To
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Balancing a full-time corporate role and a side hustle, I often find it hard to dedicate time to personal healing. This book’s clear, day-by-day approach made it easy to follow and apply, even with my hectic schedule. I appreciate how it provides concrete daily steps rather than vague advice, which really helped me break free from obsessive thoughts. I keep coming back to this guide whenever I need grounding or a push forward. It’s become a trusted resource in my journey to move on, and I’d recommend it to anyone struggling to let go but unsure how to start.

H Hannah W.
★★★★★ Really helpful guide, prompt delivery
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This book is exactly what I needed after my breakup! It lays out a clear, day-by-day plan that actually helped me stop obsessing and start moving on. Super practical and straightforward. Definitely recommend for anyone struggling to let go.

T Tyler N.
★★★★★ Surprisingly effective and practical
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At first, I was skeptical about trying yet another breakup recovery book, assuming it would just rehash common advice. But this one truly stands out with its clear, day-by-day plan that feels doable rather than overwhelming. I appreciated how it starts by explaining why letting go is so hard, treating the emotional pain like a kind of addiction, which made the process feel more scientific and less like just mushy feelings. The structured 30-day approach gave me concrete steps to follow, which helped me stick with the no-contact rule for once and actually quiet the obsessive thoughts that kept looping in my head. This book doesn’t just tell you to “move on,” it shows you exactly how to grieve intentionally and even reframe your memories in a way that makes healing real. What I found most valuable was the practical focus on reclaiming everyday habits—like better sleep and morning routines—which made the emotional recovery feel grounded in daily life. By the end of the month, I felt like I had started to rebuild my sense of self, separate from that person I was trying to get over. Overall, a refreshing and really helpful guide for anyone struggling to let go.

Editorial praise

“The first breakup book I've read that treats heartbreak like the medical-grade problem it is. Sutton doesn't comfort you to death; she gives you a schedule and refuses to let you drown.”

“Most 'move on' books are 200 pages of permission to feel sad. This is 30 days of permission to actually get better. The Emergency Toolkit alone is worth the price.”

“Aggressively practical and impossible to put down. By Day 9 our test readers had stopped checking their ex's profile. That is not normal. That is the book.”