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Get Over Anyone for Good: The 30-Day Plan to Stop Loving Someone Who's Gone

A Day-by-Day System to Survive No Contact, Quiet the Obsessive Thoughts, and Get Your Life Back

by Dr. Maya Sutton (Author)

★★★★★ 4.8 518 ratings
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About this book

A brutally practical, 30-day, day-by-day program for anyone who knows it's over but can't stop loving, checking, and hoping. It replaces vague 'time heals' advice with concrete daily actions to survive No Contact, break the obsessive thought loop, grieve on purpose, and rebuild an identity that doesn't revolve around the person who left.

You already know it's over. That's not the problem. The problem is that your brain didn't get the memo, and every night it drags you back to the same person who is never coming back. You've read the quotes. You've heard 'just give it time.' You've maybe even gone No Contact and relapsed by Tuesday. None of it stopped the ache, because none of it gave you a plan.

Get Over Anyone for Good is that plan. In 30 numbered days, Dr. Maya Sutton walks you through exactly what to do each morning, each night, and in every craving in between. You'll learn why your brain treats this person like a drug and how to detox from them on a schedule. You'll get scripts for the moment you want to text, a system that makes No Contact actually stick, and grief rituals that move pain through you instead of trapping you in it. By the end, you won't be faking 'I'm fine.' You'll be genuinely indifferent, fully yourself, and free.

This is not a book about getting them back. It's not about toxic positivity or pretending you didn't love them. It's a structured, secular, science-backed recovery protocol for the specific, humiliating, exhausting pain of still loving someone who is gone. Thirty days. One clear instruction at a time. Your life, returned to you.

I wrote this because 'give it time' nearly destroyed me. Time alone doesn't heal you. What you do with the time does. So I'm going to tell you exactly what to do, one day at a time, until the person who left finally loses their grip on you.

Table of contents

  1. Introduction: You Don't Need More Time, You Need a Plan
  2. Day 1-3: The Detox Begins (Why Your Brain Treats Them Like a Drug)
  3. Day 4-6: No Contact That Actually Sticks
  4. Day 7-9: Killing the Obsessive Thought Loop
  5. Day 10-12: Grieving on Purpose Instead of Forever
  6. Day 13-15: The Memory Edit (Rewriting the Highlight Reel)
  7. Day 16-18: Reclaiming Your Body, Sleep, and Mornings
  8. Day 19-21: Rebuilding an Identity That Isn't About Them
  9. Day 22-24: Handling the Relapse Triggers (Songs, Dates, Mutual Friends)
  10. Day 25-27: From Longing to Indifference
  11. Day 28-30: The New Default (Who You Are Now)
  12. After Day 30: Staying Free and Loving Again When You're Ready
  13. Emergency Toolkit: What to Do at 3am When You Want to Text Them

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Product details

Print length
121 pages
Language
English
Categories
How To Get Over SomeoneNonfictionBooks
Dimensions
6 x 9 inches

About the author

Dr. Maya Sutton

Dr. Maya Sutton is a licensed clinical psychologist and breakup-recovery specialist who has spent fifteen years helping people stop loving someone who left. After her own two-year struggle to get over a man who married someone else six months after dumping her, she stopped trusting 'give it time' and built the structured 30-day protocol she needed and couldn't find. She has since guided thousands of clients through it, and her no-nonsense, science-backed method has become the plan people share with their friends at 3am. She writes the way a good friend talks: warm, blunt, and impossible to argue with.

Customer reviews

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A Amanda R.
★★★★★ A Lifeline When I Needed It Most
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Balancing a full-time job and parenting left me emotionally drained after my breakup, but this book was a game changer. Whenever the urge to reach out to him overwhelmed me, the day-by-day plan grounded me and stopped the spiral of pain. It helped me build boundaries with No Contact that truly stuck and gave me practical tools to rebuild my confidence instead of sinking into despair. Months later, while I didn’t get the outcome I originally hoped for, I finally found the strength to move on without feeling broken, and I’m proud to say I’m thriving again. For anyone juggling chaos in their life yet desperate for peace and progress, this book is a must-have guide to reclaim your power and heal with intention.

M Marcus T.
★★★★★ A Must-Have Survival Guide for Anyone Facing Heartbreak
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As a first-time entrepreneur juggling deadlines and emotional turmoil, I can honestly say this book was a game changer. The practical, day-by-day plan helped me regain my focus and calm the chaos in my mind when my relationship ended. I wish I had discovered these strategies long before the breakup hit hard—this truly offers concrete steps rather than vague platitudes. What stood out most was the advice on maintaining No Contact and managing obsessive thoughts, which I applied exactly as suggested. It saved me from public emotional meltdowns and helped me protect my professional image and personal sanity. Whether you’re struggling right now or sense trouble ahead, this book is an invaluable tool for reclaiming your power and rebuilding your life with confidence.

P Priya S.
★★★★☆ Practical and straightforward, a solid guide for moving on
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This book offers clear, no-nonsense advice that I believe anyone going through a breakup would find useful—especially those of us who thought time alone would heal all wounds. It reinforces the importance of respecting yourself and not chasing after someone who's not reciprocating, which is a lesson I wish I had learned earlier in life. The daily plan is practical and easy to follow, addressing the mental struggles that come with ending a relationship. I appreciated how it explains the 'why' behind our obsessive thoughts and the importance of setting firm boundaries. As a retiree, I found the tone relatable and the approach very honest, though at times the writing could have been a bit tighter. Still, this book offers helpful clarity and a structured way to regain control and rebuild your identity without the other person.

D David K.
★★★★★ Essential Guide for Anyone Struggling to Move On
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As a full-time freelancer, balancing my emotional wellbeing while managing an unpredictable workload can be incredibly challenging, especially after a breakup. I found this book to be a lifesaver because it offers a practical, day-by-day plan rather than vague platitudes about healing over time. The step-by-step approach helped me understand why my mind kept fixating on someone who was no longer part of my life and gave me concrete daily actions to break free from that cycle. What I appreciated most is that it doesn’t sugarcoat the pain but instead teaches you how to grieve intentionally and reclaim your sense of self in a tangible way. The sections on handling triggers like mutual friends or certain dates were particularly useful for someone like me who works from home and can’t always escape reminders. It’s not just theory—this book provides realistic tools to survive no contact and quiet obsessive thoughts that plague you. I also think this is a must-read for anyone tired of feeling emotionally stuck and confused after giving their all to a relationship. It’s concise but powerful, and I wish I had read something like this years ago. If you’re looking for a straightforward, compassionate guide to finally getting your life back and moving forward with confidence, this book is exactly that. Highly recommended for anyone ready to stop the hurt and start healing.

S Sophia M.
★★★★★ Straightforward and empowering for tough moments
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As a small-business owner, I don’t have time for fluff when dealing with heartbreak. This book cuts right to the chase with practical, day-by-day steps that helped me stand firm when I was tempted to give in to old patterns. The guidance felt compassionate but firm—just what I needed to stop letting my ex’s behavior control my emotions. It’s more than just advice; it’s a plan to regain your power and rebuild your life on your terms. Highly recommend if you’re ready to stop the cycle and take back control without wasting time on vague promises.

J James W.
★★★★★ The Kickstart I Needed to Move On
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This book was exactly the push I required to get serious about moving forward. Balancing my corporate job and side hustle often left me emotionally drained, but following the daily steps helped me keep my mind busy and focused on productive goals. Instead of obsessing over someone who was clearly not invested, I found myself dedicating time to personal growth and even volunteering locally, which was incredibly fulfilling. It’s amazing how shifting my energy off my phone and onto actionable plans changed everything. Nearing the end of the 30-day journey, the idea of reconnecting feels almost laughable—unless some grand, taco-and-coffee-worthy gesture happens, there’s no going back. What’s more, focusing on myself has opened new doors socially and professionally, and honestly, it feels empowering to be in control again.

E Elena V.
★★★★★ Exactly What I Needed After My Breakup
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As a recent college grad navigating my first real heartbreak, this book hit home in ways I didn’t expect. It’s tough but so compassionate, breaking down the messy feelings into daily doable steps. I felt like the author truly gets what it’s like to feel lost and overwhelmed—like a supportive friend guiding me through the worst of it. The blend of tough-love and kindness made me realize I’m not alone and that healing is possible. Super straightforward and honest, it kept me hooked from start to finish. Highly recommend for anyone struggling to move on!

R Robert H.
★★★★☆ A practical, compassionate guide to truly letting go
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I was honestly skeptical at first about picking up yet another breakup recovery book, especially one that promised a step-by-step 30-day plan. I’ve seen so many vague “time heals all wounds” approaches that didn’t help at all when I was stuck obsessing over someone who had clearly moved on. But this book completely won me over with its straightforward, day-by-day system that actually feels doable and compassionate. What stood out immediately is how it acknowledges the reality of neglect and unreturned affection without sugarcoating it. This isn’t a guide about playing games or general dating advice; rather, it’s laser-focused on helping you survive the painful aftermath of a breakup where the other person has emotionally checked out. The sections on establishing no contact that really sticks and breaking the obsessive thought loop were eye-opening for me. The book explains why your brain treats this person like a drug and gives concrete daily actions to detox from that. I also appreciated the emphasis on reclaiming your identity—encouraging you to reconnect with the parts of yourself that made you vibrant before the relationship took over. It reminded me that self-respect and honoring my own needs aren’t selfish but essential to moving forward. The guidance on grieving purposefully instead of endlessly stuck in heartbreak was especially healing. While the title might lead some to expect a quick fix or a dating strategy, this book is really about regaining your power and emotional freedom with kindness toward yourself. It helped me put the pieces back together without feeling pressured or rushed. A few minor typos didn’t detract from the overall impact. For anyone struggling to stop loving someone who’s gone, this practical, no-nonsense plan is a worthy investment.

J Jessica L.
★★★★★ A Practical Lifeline at Just the Right Moment
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Incredibly useful and well worth it! This book arrived exactly when I needed it, offering clear, actionable steps instead of vague advice. For anyone trying to move on without wasting time or money on endless therapy, this 30-day plan is a mental health lifesaver that keeps your wallet intact.

D Daniel S.
★★★★☆ Finally, a practical guide that really helps!
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After dealing with a breakup that left me utterly confused and vulnerable, I was desperate for something straightforward to follow. This book's day-by-day plan to truly get over someone is a lifesaver. I'm only a few days in, and the no-contact strategies combined with the explanations about why our brains get stuck on the person have made me see things in a new light. It's tough, especially when there's no message from them, but this book is helping me stay strong and reminding me that moving on is possible. What I appreciate most is how it avoids vague clichés and instead offers concrete steps to rebuild my life and identity beyond the relationship. One thing I wished it included is clearer guidance on what to do if the person suddenly tries to reconnect — how to handle that without falling back into old patterns. Still, this plan has been the most helpful I've found, especially after bad advice left me doubting myself. Definitely recommend starting this ASAP if you want real progress.

L Laura B.
★★★★★ A practical guide that truly helps you heal
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After countless breakups where I kept falling back into the same trap of hoping and checking, this book gave me a clear, day-by-day plan that finally broke the cycle. It helped me understand why I was stuck emotionally and showed me how to take control by setting firm boundaries like no contact. The daily tasks and reflections encouraged me to look honestly at my own role in relationships without blaming myself, which was freeing. It also inspired me to care for myself and rebuild my sense of identity beyond that lost love. This straightforward, compassionate approach has made a real difference in my healing journey.

C Chris G.
★★★★★ A Meticulously Crafted Roadmap for Emotional Recovery
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Having navigated an extensive collection of self-help resources and personally engaged in therapy, I approach books of this nature with a critical eye. This particular guide stands apart with its unwavering focus and practical structure. It’s not a vague, feel-good narrative but a sharply defined 30-day strategy that systematically guides you through the process of moving on after a painful breakup. The clarity in each daily action step is exactly what I needed to replace the endless rumination and emotional turbulence that had held me captive. What impressed me most is the book’s emphasis on reclaiming your own identity and wellbeing, rather than fixating on the other person. It dispels the common temptation to analyze or dwell on the ex’s actions, instead directing energy toward tangible self-care and rebuilding. I appreciated the program’s unique approach to rewriting your mental narratives and managing triggers, which I had never encountered in other resources cluttered with meaningless affirmations or platitudes. As someone who thrives on detailed plans and measurable progress, I found the day-by-day format incredibly effective. Each phase—from detoxing your brain of obsessive thoughts to establishing a new default self—feels intentional and achievable. This book became a blueprint for me, akin to having a therapist’s guidance right at my fingertips. For those committed to genuinely healing and regaining control of their life, this guide is a rare and invaluable tool.

N Nina P.
★★★★☆ Clear, practical guidance for moving on amid chaos
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As a busy parent balancing work and family, I needed straightforward, no-nonsense advice to end the exhausting loop of hoping for reconciliation. This book’s 30-day plan cuts through the fog with actionable steps like truly committing to no contact and purposefully grieving instead of avoiding the pain. It was eye-opening to realize that clinging to communication or pretending to be friends only delays healing—something I hadn’t heard so bluntly before. The sections on breaking obsessive thoughts and reclaiming my own identity gave me tools to stop spinning my wheels and start rebuilding my life on my terms. If you’re stuck in the emotional limbo of a breakup and overwhelmed by your daily responsibilities, this book offers a realistic, compassionate roadmap to finally getting free.

A Anthony D.
★★★★★ Practical and empowering guide for moving on
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As a first-time entrepreneur navigating the ups and downs of both business and personal life, I found this book to be an incredibly practical resource when I was struggling to let go of a past relationship. The author’s straightforward, day-by-day plan helped me understand why I kept getting stuck in old thought patterns and gave me concrete tools—like the affirmations and mindset exercises—to finally break free from that cycle. It wasn’t just theory; it felt like real, lived experience guiding me step by step. What really stood out was how this book helped me reconnect with my own worth and identity outside of the relationship. The daily program challenged me to stop settling for emotional patterns that didn’t serve me and instead build a foundation of self-love and clarity. I highly recommend this to anyone needing a structured, compassionate way to stop repeating old mistakes and start creating a healthier, more focused life. It’s helped me so much in both my personal growth and the confidence I need as a new entrepreneur.

R Rachel C.
★★★★★ A Lifeline When I Thought I'd Never Heal
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After retiring and facing the end of a long relationship, I felt lost and overwhelmed by grief. This book's day-by-day plan was exactly what I needed to finally stop the endless cycle of pain and obsessive thoughts. The practical steps helped me understand why I was stuck and showed me how to reclaim my life and identity. If you're ready to do the hard work and want real progress, this guide will help you breathe freely again. It’s been a crucial part of my healing journey, and I’m grateful for its compassionate, straightforward approach.

K Kevin O.
★★★★★ A lifeline through heartbreak for anyone who needs a clear path forward
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As a full-time freelancer, my work-life balance often depends on my emotional wellbeing, and after a tough breakup a couple of months ago, I found myself stuck in a relentless loop of hope and heartbreak. "Get Over Anyone for Good" became my daily companion through this storm, offering straightforward, no-nonsense guidance that I could actually implement. The step-by-step 30-day plan is unlike vague advice about 'just needing time'; it offers concrete actions that helped me stop checking his social media and quiet the obsessive thoughts that were draining my energy. What I especially appreciated were the sections that dive into why our brains treat lost love like addiction, and how to build a practical No Contact routine that really works. It wasn’t sugarcoated — this book respects that healing is hard, but instead of leaving you to figure it out alone, it hands you tools to reclaim your mornings, your sleep, and your own identity, separate from that relationship. The guided exercises encouraged me to reflect on the relationship honestly and helped me dismantle the fantasy of perfection I’d been holding onto. This self-reflection was crucial in shifting my mindset and opening up space for genuine growth and self-care. Whenever I felt stuck or overwhelmed, I’d revisit a chapter and find motivation to keep pushing forward. I also valued the ongoing support this book points to — a community of others on the same journey, offering encouragement and practical advice. If you're navigating the pain of a breakup and want a clear, effective plan to move beyond it, this book is a must-have. It’s helped me not just survive, but start to really live again on my own terms.

M Maria F.
★★★★★ A Game-Changer for Moving Forward
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As a small-business owner juggling a million things, I didn’t have time for vague advice or wishful thinking after my relationship ended. This book’s straightforward 30-day plan was exactly what I needed to stop obsessing and reclaim my focus. The day-by-day system helped me quit the cycle of checking and hoping, and the practical steps for No Contact really stuck. What I appreciated most was how it guided me to grieve purposefully and rebuild my identity outside that relationship—something I never found in other self-help resources. I’ve already recommended it to friends struggling with breakups, especially those caught in toxic patterns. If you want no fluff, just clear, actionable support that respects your time and pain, this is the one.

B Brandon J.
★★★★★ Practical and supportive guidance for moving on
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As someone juggling a full-time corporate job along with a side hustle, I don’t have much time to waste on vague advice. This book’s clear, day-by-day plan has been a game changer for me. I appreciate how it breaks down the process into manageable steps that actually stick, helping me finally take control of my thoughts and emotions. Even halfway through, I can already feel the impact—no more endless ruminating or hoping for something that won’t happen. It’s a relief to have such a practical, actionable system that fits into my busy schedule. I’m so grateful to have found a resource that truly understands the challenge of letting go and offers real tools to rebuild and move forward.

H Hannah W.
★★★★★ A lifeline when heartbreak feels endless
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As a recent college grad struggling to move on from a tough breakup, this book felt like a much-needed guide. It helped me understand that the intense pain I was feeling wasn’t just sadness—it was a process, and totally normal. The day-by-day plan gave me small, manageable steps rather than vague advice, which made it easier to cope with the obsessive thoughts and the urge to reach out. Knowing I’m not alone and that others have found a way through gave me hope. I'm still working through it, but the heaviness in my chest has finally started to lift. I’d recommend this to anyone looking for real, practical help instead of empty platitudes.

T Tyler N.
★★★★★ A surprisingly effective roadmap through heartbreak
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I approached this book with a fair amount of skepticism, having tried (and failed) with countless breakup guides that promised the moon but delivered little more than clichés. But within just a few days of following this step-by-step 30-day plan, I found myself genuinely gaining traction. The author’s straightforward, no-nonsense approach to breaking the cycle of obsessive thoughts and enforcing no contact is exactly what I needed to stop spinning my wheels. What truly sets this book apart is how it goes beyond surface-level pep talks. It made me recognize some deep-seated patterns—low self-esteem, fear of abandonment, and a tendency to cling to unhealthy relationships. The daily actionable tasks push you to confront those issues rather than just gloss over them. It’s tough work, but it’s real healing, not just a quick fix. I’m still on my journey, but I already feel equipped with practical tools to rebuild my sense of self and to move forward without looking back. This book has earned a permanent spot on my shelf—not just as a breakup manual but as a guide for genuine personal growth. If you’re tired of vague advice and ready to do the hard, necessary work to truly get over someone, this is hands down the resource to trust.

Editorial praise

“The first breakup book I've read that treats heartbreak like the medical-grade problem it is. Sutton doesn't comfort you to death; she gives you a schedule and refuses to let you drown.”

“Most 'move on' books are 200 pages of permission to feel sad. This is 30 days of permission to actually get better. The Emergency Toolkit alone is worth the price.”

“Aggressively practical and impossible to put down. By Day 9 our test readers had stopped checking their ex's profile. That is not normal. That is the book.”